Love Without Distraction

Several days ago I was listening to a “The School Of Greatness” podcast with Lewis Howes and guest Stephan Speaks. The topic hovered around communication in relationships – all types of relationships – but there was a segment that struck me and has me thinking.

They were talking about how we spend time together in relationships with significant others and who we present ourselves as. Is it the façade version, or the real version? And when it is the real version, do we need the distractions (tech, activities, etc.) in order to enjoy each other, or can we love without distraction?

They presented the idea that most couples fill their time together with distractions, activities, busyness, and that this is the method for loving together. They presented the idea that most couples don’t know how to spend time together, love together, without those things.

This jumped out at me because my favorite times with David are when we are alone together, free from every distraction. 

The reverse of what they were talking about in the podcast.

We are most connected and our truest selves when it is just the two of us, no devices, no other people, no specific activity or goal. Just us, free to focus on each other and connecting deeply.

We are free to be our weird, wonderful selves together.

We definitely have fun doing things together and with the kids, but the focused, distraction-free time is my favorite. This is an excellent reminder to create more time and space for that because it works. For times when we feel scattered and harried, this is the home base we need to return to.

How about you? Where do you fall with these ideas and experiences? Does any of this ring true for you, on any spot of the spectrum?

Thank you, Lewis and Stephan, for the bolt of lightning and clearly identified anchor. May we all love without distraction, a short but powerful idea for the day.

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